If you ask 50 different people what cheating means to them, you’ll get a lot of different answers, some will be probably close to each other. What you consider cheating in a relationship, some other person might not consider it cheating.
To some, you’ve basically not cheated until you have kissed or had sex with someone who isn’t your partner. To some other people, just winking or having more than a minute eye contact with another person is cheating.
Cheating cannot exactly be defined because people differ in the way they see things. Nevertheless, cheating has to come with secrecy, being deceptive, and intentional omissions. From the answers I got when I asked people personally about what cheating means to them, I could group cheating into these various categories.
This is almost the first thing that will come to anybody’s mind if you are told somebody cheated. Kissing, groping, having sex with someone who isn’t your partner is cheating, unless you have both agreed otherwise. Feelings don’t have to be necessarily involved before this kind of cheating can occur, it can be done with anybody and at any point in time.
This is one of the worst ways to cheat on your partner because there is no concrete evidence to show you are actually cheating. Especially with this “best friend” or “big brother” tag, it is hard to draw the line or put your foot down when you suspect there is something going on.
The funny part about this is you might not exactly plan to get so involved with this other person, it might just happen overtime. Unnecessary long calls, discussing plans that have nothing to do with the person, encouraging discussions that has nothing to do with you, and before you know it, you are looking forward to talking to the person regularly, you find joy in discussing irrelevant things with this person.
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To be clear, it is not wrong to have amazing friends outside your relationship. It becomes wrong when you feel guilt after dropping the call, it becomes wrong when you can’t tell your partner where you are when you are with this person, it becomes wrong when you have to hide this relationship from your partner.
I think this is just the basis of cheating. Anything you do that has to be hidden from your partner, no matter how small it is, should be cheating. The idea is you don’t have to tell your partner everything, but when you do something that if your partner accidentally knows about it, you won’t be able to defend yourself, then it is not fair to do it.
Secrets about habits, financial issues, family problems and the likes should be avoided. You should try to be as plain as you can be with your partner.
Nobody deserves to be cheated on, it is better to walk out of the relationship than cheat on your partner. If you have been cheating unknowingly (emotional infidelity or secrecy), you can make adjustments now that you know. The simple logic is whatever you do that you know you can’t defend or will make your partner sad, try to stay away from it as much as possible.
I’ll love to know what cheating means to you, please share your thoughts in the comment section below. Keep loving the way you’ll love to be loved.