Before moving any further, it is important to know that having sexual urges is perfectly normal. Overtime, it is very easy to give or receive advice on being celibate, especially if it’s coming from our parents, Sunday school teachers, or somebody older in general. I don’t know if they intentionally skip the part where our bodies start misbehaving, or they just hope we figure out that part ourselves.
Sexual urge is all of the feelings resulting from the urge to gratify sexual impulses. Sexual impulses can be wanting to be kissed, to be cuddled, to be touched, and all the other stuff. It is normal to want these things, but the rate at which we have the sexual urges can be determined and controlled
In this post, I will be sharing some reasons why the urges sometimes seem out of control and we then need extra effort to put them in check.
IT MIGHT JUST BE THE TIME OF THE MONTH.
When I say the time of the month, I am not even talking about the period of menstruation for the ladies. I am talking about the days right before/sometimes after the menstruation!!! This is when you will be paying extra attention to the lips of the guy talking to you, or the urge to be desperately touch yourself or want to be touched will be there.
According to what I read on google, it is due to the high progesterone and all those medical stuff you can read HERE. What you can do is pay extra attention to the things you hear and do at this point, till the feelings pass away. But if you are married, please enjoy yourself to the fullest.
MAKING CERTAIN CALLS/LISTENING TO CERTAIN SONGS AT NIGHT.
Emotions are heightened at night. I don’t know if it is because it is just dark and cozy, or because our common sense will just decide to start sleeping when it’s about 10pm and just leave our brains empty. Do you think you can listen to songs like “perfect” or “shape of you” by Ed Sheeran when you are most likely in your room alone at night, and you expect yourself not to start having wild thoughts? God then bless you to be using headphones so you can listen and understand the lyrics perfectly.
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I don’t know a greater punishment for lovers who decide to make calls into the night, building their emotions by telling them really nice and sweet things, and be expecting goodnight and sweet dreams to just end the tension. Our bodies are designed to finish whatever they have started, you will most likely want to relieve yourself of the tension. So, you can just do yourself the favor of cutting off the call when you start getting wanton.
THE BOOKS/MOVIES WE FEED OURSELVES WITH
Sometimes the way I imagine things scare me. I am the kind of person that will just sit down and give a movie/book the kind of ending I want it to have, I might even introduce new characters in my imagination. Many thanks to all the “harlequin”, “silhouette”, “mills and boon” novels, my imaginations have never been the same.
You think the way you felt when they were kissing passionately in the movie you watched ends there? Nah, it’s somewhere in your mind waiting for the best thing to come to your head, so you will be the one kissing instead of the person in the movie.
It is normal to have sexual urges, but it can be controlled. The best way is to understand your body, know what turns you on, and then consciously run in the opposite direction. And when you get married, you will embrace the things that turn you on, and explore to just be enjoying your life. How well do you control your sexual urges? Please share in the comment section.