Firstly, I am very curious about promise cards. Do children still do them? I really miss promise cards during the Christmas and New Year, I made a lot of money those times. Sometimes, I had almost three or four of them, and you better don’t promise me thinking you will not pay, I would find you and collect my money. These are one of the things that makes me not want to grow up, I still want people to be dashing me money.
Someone on twitter said the gyms will be full this month, and start reducing from the third week of January, and we all know this statement is true. We are all in the initial gragra new year behavior, listing all the things we plan to start or stop doing, places we plan to visit, boundaries we plan to break, and so on. This sounds very good, until we move to the “I can’t come and kill myself” stage which is almost inevitable.
This post is not to tell you about making or not making new year resolutions, but about what to do when we start suspecting we are getting to the “I can’t come and kill myself” stage. You can also note them before you even start suspecting, so water will not pass garri, and you will not be able to taste the sugar in the garri.
Reduce the pressure.
It’s just like when our jollof rice has started burning when the rice has not been cooked properly, we just reduce the heat. We can apply this to real life too. When you feel you are not achieving what you planned within the timeframe you set for it, and you know it’s beginning to affect you negatively, just take a chill pill for a while.
Worry and anxiety will take actually take us nowhere, and sometimes the excess pressure we put on ourselves just bring worry and pressure. It’s good to put pressure on ourselves to achieve certain goals, but we should be able to tone it down at certain points so we will be able to achieve that which we actually planned to do.
Surround yourself with people of like minds.
This is how I think it should work, you should have people/friends in major areas you plan to grow. For instance, if you plan to save to travel, it will be easier to do this if you are going with a group of people. You will be there to remind each other of the plan, you can probably open a group chat to make this effective.
Same thing if you want to go on a diet, it will be easier to go through it with someone who wants to go on a diet too, than just doing it yourself. You will be able to cheer yourselves when it is tough and talk sternly when you go on cheat days when you are not supposed to.
The idea is just to have someone you are accountable to. Accountability plays a major role in achieving already set goals.
Make the process enjoyable.
If the process is enjoyable, it will be easier to achieve goals. One of the ways in making the process enjoyable is by surrounding yourself with people of like minds. You can also pick one or two things, depending on the process. Celebrate yourself for every milestone you cross, tell yourself congratulations from time to time.
Acknowledge failed attempts.
Sometimes when we fail at stuff, we just overlook them. if we don’t know why we have failed at the times we have attempted, we might end up making the same mistakes over and over again, and by the time we know it, we are tired of all what we are doing, because we keep getting the same mistakes.
It is okay to fail, but don’t just let it end at failing. Know why you failed this particular time, and work towards not making the same mistakes again. At least if one is failing, let it be because of different reasons.
I really pray this year is a good one for everybody reading this post, I pray we surpass all that we plan to achieve this year and most importantly, I pray we find reasons to always be genuinely happy this year.
I appreciate you all for always reading, liking, sharing, and dropping comments the past year. There is no growth without any of you, you have all made the brand bigger and better.
I love you, I do love you, and I will keep loving you.